Well I happened to be on Facebook last night to check in on pictures of a friend and his new baby. While I was there I decided to look up some people from my past, possibly those that I needed to forgive.
I have good news. And good news.
Want the good news first?
My "forever crush" is on there....finally!!! This gives me hope that he is home from serving in the military and is just fine. The only bad news is there is no picture of him up there and no details for me to see. Okay I'm not 100% sure it is him, but he spelled his name a particular way and so that gives me some hope. No forgiveness need with Forever Crush. Just want to know he is alive and well and living his life.
Next, for some good news.
Another guy from my past is finally on there. Throw in some Fifty f*ckedupitedness and some Profward I'm-smart-but-have-a-f*Cked-up-history with the bravado of Mafiaward and a sprinkle of I-don't-see-myself-clearly original Edward and may I present this guy. Let's call him "James."
{He was only good looking if you like tall, lots of brown hair, broad, and smoky blue eyes. What can I say? Apparently I've always had this Rob Pattinson type thing going and just didn't know what to call it.}
And despite all that, I think he really wanted to be a better version of himself. He could get very down on himself. Only I was not the "Bella" that inspired him to deal with his past, give it all up, and become that better person...
OMG!! Is that why we like the stories we all seem to like in FanFiction and even in Twilight? We are all told, "you can't try and change a guy" but why do we like the stories of the bad boy who is just changed by love?
Even in Twilight, Edward changed the night he watched Bella sleeping in her room (detailed in Midnight Sun). Despite how he perceived himself as a monster and unworthy of love, it was an inexplicable change that overcame him based out of his new found love for Bella.
I guess I have grown up loving this recurring storyline:
Danny and Sandy in Grease
Johnny and Baby in Dirty Dancing
Dylan and Brenda on BH, 90210
Edward and Vivian in Pretty Woman
Definitely some of my favorites!
So getting back to "James." As I thought about what I had read in DangrDafne's post about forgiveness and reflected on those days, I realized that there was a part of him that he clearly needed to heal within himself whatever that was rooted in his family or childhood.
I truly hope he has been able to do so.
In all of the above mentioned stories, there is a part to the stories where forgiveness comes into play. Basically the guy ends up acting like a jerk and seeks forgiveness.
Danny dancing with Cha Cha Degregorio--Sandy forgave him.
Dylan cheated on Brenda with Kelly--Brenda forgave him.
Edward treated Vivian like a hooker--she forgave him.
Fifty inflicted real red room pain on Bella forcing her to leave, but she forgave him.
Profward stopped talking to Bella in order to save her reputation as a student and not have her expelled from the university. Even though she felt abandoned by him, she forgave him.
Mafiaward kept tons of secrets from Bella and was always flying off the handle, but she forgave him.
Edward left to protect Bella in New Moon, but she forgave him.
Yep, we like our forgiveness and second chances in our stories and real life too. Did they all deserve it?
As for "James"...well based on his Facebook picture, the years have not been kind to him. And his girlfriend in the picture...let's face it, resembles me. {I wish I was joking here!} I'm guessing at his age he has YET to find his "Bella" so how could I not forgive him?
Here's a great "Goodbye to You" video {for you James} to put you in a forgiving mood.
Video made by DefiningBeautyNet
Any of your other favorite couples that fit into this category?
Tell me in the comments.
Thanks DD for another inspiring post!!!
-kiTT
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